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There are two mental states that must be fulfilled before a person will willingly stop smoking. These fundamentals are called "Desire," and "Decision."

DESIRE: A want, crave or a wish for

DECISION: Making up of one's mind / a verdict or judgment

In order to stop smoking, you must have a DESIRE to quit. You probably want to stop smoking, at least some part of you does, or you wouldn't be reading this article.

In addition, in order to stop smoking, you have to DECIDE to quit. Since you haven't broken your smoking habit, it simply means that you have not DECIDED to quit smoking yet.

So what you need is to feel provoked to make a "DECISION" to quit smoking.

MOTIVATION, we all need it. The source of each of our motivations is what we believe. Think about it, if you did not think it was true that you could be injured if you walked in front of moving traffic, you would not feel motivated to be alert. If you did not believe that the gnawing sensation in your stomach meant that you were hungry, you wouldn't feel motivated to eat.

When it comes to giving up the cigarette addiction, people who have a smoking habit need to feel a lot of of motivation to make the DECISION to give up their addiction to smoking. Motivation is based on the thoughts that we believe. So you will need to DECIDE exactly which thoughts will motivate you (when you start to believe them). Because when you feel powerfully motivated, you will stop smoking.

Thanks to NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) and hypnotism for motivation, it's a lot easier to learn how to believe these new ideas than you probably think. However, you do not believe the ideas that will motivate you to stop smoking right now, or you would have already quit smoking.

For the purpose of this discussion, we need to define a few words.

DOUBT: Uncertain/distrustful/dubious - "maybe it's this way, and maybe it isn't."

BELIEF: Trust/faith/tenet - A state of mind free of all doubt. In other words, belief means, "this is the way that it is."

HIGHLY VALUED CRITERIA: What is most important to you, as an individual humanbeing.

When you totally believe that if you continue to smoke your highly valued criterion is jeopardized, you will feel the motivation that you require to break your addiction to cigarettes. We call this is a negative motivator, because it's a belief that motivates you by giving you terrible feelings. Negative motivators are great for getting you to make decisions and changes in your life.

When you believe that if you do quit smoking, your highly valued criteria will become enhanced, then you will also feel the motivation that you require to stop smoking. This is a positive motivator, because it motivates you by promising good feelings if you quit smoking.

The first chore is for you to DECIDE what the most important things in your life happen to be. Your most highly valued criteria are usually things that you can't see. For example: Money would not be highly valued criteria, but the freedom, fun, or security that money can purchase would be. Write your list of highly valued criteria down on a piece of paper.

Next you need to DECIDE what you would need to believe to feel motivated to give up the cigaratte addiction. Here is the good news, sort of: Logic has nothing to do with belief. Things don't have to be logical for anyone to believe them. As a matter of fact, they rarely are. So don't worry about logic!

The format for your negative motivator beliefs will be: "I believe that if I continue to smoke, something terrible will happen to my most highly valued criteria."

Make sure that you frame your motivators in the positive. In other words, always state what you want or what will happen. You should not state what will not happen. Eliminate the "not" word from the beliefs.

In this example we will say that your children's welfare is your most highly valued criteria.

WRONG: "I believe that if I continue to smoke, I won't be doing my kid's health any good."

CORRECT: "I believe that if I continue to smoke, my secondhand smoke will give my children cancer."

Next, create a list of positive motivators. "I believe that if I stop smoking: (something very important will be enhanced)."

WRONG: "I believe that if I stop smoking, I won't harm my kid's health."

CORRECT: "I believe that if I stop smoking, my children will be safe because I'll eliminate their exposure to the dangers of my secondhand smoke."

The next step is to change the computer codes in your brain to make yourself actually believe these new ideas. Now for a bombshell: Your beliefs have nothing to do with or what is real. Instead, your beliefs have everything to do with what your perception of reality is. In other words, it has a lot to do with the way that you see things.

Our belief systems are based in our subconscious. The unconscious is like a computer. Computers do not reason. What goes in controls what comes out. To demonstrate, I want you to think of anything that you already believe without the slightest bit of doubt. So come up with a belief that gives you a good feeling.

For instance, it's easy for most people to believe that they love their children. If that is true for you, make a mental picture that makes you feel that feeling of love.

I'm going to ask some questions, and there aren't any right or wrong answers.

Is your mental image a moving picture, or a still?

Is it in color, or in black and white?

Is it close or far?

Is it focused or fuzzy?

Is it normally bright, overly bright, or dim?

Is there a border on it?

Is it borderless?

Is it a panorama?

Whatever your answers are, just write them down on a piece of paper. These are the computer codes that your unconscious uses to indicate your feelings of belief. In this case they are the computer codes for positive belief, because you have chosen a belief that gives you an excellent feeling. You have just calibrated your positive belief.

All positive belief pictures are bright and focused. If yours aren't, you probably do not really have total belief. An element of doubt is probably present. So find another belief to calibrate.

If you think of something that you are unsure of, and you make a mental picture of it, one or more of these computer codes will probably be different. Similarly, if you have a belief that gives you a bad feeling, (a negative belief): one or more of those codes or submodalities will be different.

In NLP we call these particular computer codes visual submodalities.

Now you will need to calibrate a negative belief. So repeat the same exact process, but do so using an idea that you already believe, that makes you feel bad.

Once you've calibrated your positive and negative beliefs, it's a simple matter to manage what you believe so you can motivate yourself to DECIDE to quit.

So, to summarize, using the above example: "I believe that if I continue to smoke, my secondhand smoke will ruin my children's health."

1. Sense how motivated you feel to stop smoking.

2. Make a mental picture that illustrates the above belief.

3. Adjust the computer codes (visual submodalities) of the picture to match the submodalities from your calibrated negative belief.

4. If you are right handed, move your eyeballs (and your picture) up to your left and hold it there for five seconds. If you are left handed, go up to the right. This will make you quickly memorize the belief.

5. Now become aware of how motivated you feel to stop smoking. Do you feel more motivated? Do you feel less motivated? Or are your feelings the same?

By using this system you can make yourself believe almost anything by making an image in your mind that illustrates your new idea and then adjusting your mental picture to match your calibrated belief images.

And if you have a belief that is holding you back, you can use the same technique to change that belief to doubt by changing one or two of the submodalities and memorizing it that way.

Now that you can motivate yourself to DECIDE to quit, you will stop smoking. A DECISION to quit means: I'm quitting no matter what. If you are similar to most, you will not want it to suffer from the pain of withdrawal and you do not have to. Because there are several hypnotic techniques that can greatly reduce, or even completely eliminate all of the discomforts of withdrawal from the cigarette smoking addiction. And you can read about them in my hypnosis article library.

(c) 2007 By Alan B. Densky, CH. This document may be re-printed as long as it is not altered and the author's name and clickable web address are retained.